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Embracing Change ~ Transition

by Lyndsay Blais, Penticton

The topic of managing life transitions is something I speak about quite frequently.  I have found that being able to successfully weather the storm that change can bring is more complex than whether or not someone is capable of, or simply willing to embrace change.

Changing careers, relationship challenges, death of someone close, moving from a familiar environment– are just some of the many common changes that create stress in life. 

Regardless of how the change has come about (if you chose it or it chose you) everyone goes through three distinct phases during transition.  Author and Change Management Consultant William Bridges describes the three phases of transition in his book “Transitions: Making Sense of Life’s Changes” as the “Ending, Neutral Zone and New Beginning”.  Each phase is important and valuable and provides great gifts if we are open, however this does not necessarily mean the process is a comfortable one!

When in the “Ending” phase, whatever has come to an end needs to be acknowledged.  Ask yourself, “What are my losses in this?”  It is more often the loss that needs to be grieved rather than the ending itself.  This is true even if you created the change and are pleased about the result.  All change has loss associated to it and when we allow ourselves time to grieve the losses, we move through the phases of transition with greater ease.

Once you have given yourself time to acknowledge and bring closure to what has come to an end, you will likely find yourself ready to explore possibilities in the second phase.

The “Neutral Zone” is an important stage that is often overlooked.  It can be an uncomfortable and confusing place, and it’s gestational characteristics don’t like to be rushed.  This phase can also provide an oasis in which to heal, gather new ideas and make sense of what has come to pass, and where you desire to go next.  How much time you require to spend here is individual and unique.  Trying to rush through this stage can inhibit you from gleaning the gems of wisdom this time has to offer you. 

As your need for exploration in the “Neutral Zone” wanes, you will set forth into the “New Beginning”.  Take time in this phase to put strategies in place that will support your future success.  Be patient, and recognize that the stages of learning inherent in starting something new apply no matter how “experienced” you may be.

For most people, how well they navigate the three phases of transition will indicate quite clearly how successful they will come through to the other side.  Being in the midst of a transition, good or bad – it is important to remember that transition is not an ideal time to make any major life decisions.  That forward-moving energy is best used to explore options and set yourself up for success in the “New Beginning”.  Self care is important during times of transition, so make sure to take care of the most important person in this…You!

Carpe diem ~ seize the day!

~ Lyndsay

Lyndsay Blais, creator and facilitator of the Embracing Change Program; Assisting Individuals through Career and Life Transitions.  Contact Lyndsay in Penticton, B.C. 250-809-5399; via email

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